Boundaries Shrugged

There’s a book I’ve yet to read called “The Disease to Please.”

The book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” relates basically says you must choose life priorities so that you can channel your fucks into there lest they get sucked into things that don’t matter…you know, like concerns over whether you please or displease people.

Why am I talking about this?

Because I’ve felt my sense of assertiveness waning in the recent months…

I’d have this tendency to just ignore people when they do shit I don’t like…

Childhood scripts don’t magically vanish it seems.

The times I remember being assertive is when people pushed too far…

But it’s unhealthy to let people get too comfortable before showing them where the boundary is…

Anyway, I’ve decided I’ll re-read Ayn Rand’s “The Virtue of Selfishness” before re-reading (and more importantly APPLYING) The Subtle Art.

That Ayn Rands philosophies helped strengthen my boundaries…

I wonder what caused me to fall off?

My suspicions tell me having some (what felt like) big life failures and the related blows to the self-esteem might have something to do with it…

What matters is that I’m aware of it now and I’m actively doing something about it.

Until next time

Thomas Lekhanya

P.S. Fun fact. Ayn Rand’s Atlas Shrugged was the longest book I ever read and it helped destroy any fears or reservations about reading big books. The psychological principle of the “Contrast Bias” worked in my favour.